Why do we fear the inevitable?
Trigger warning: Death
Disclaimer: This article is solely based on the author's point of view and does not intend to give any professional advice.
Often considered as an ill subject to discuss, we all have been conditioned to not think or talk about it. Death might be the most inevitable thing we all share in common but yet find it hard to contemplate. The only reason being is the fear and the uncracked mystery behind it .
It is very much healthy for us to slow down and have a thought about death and know that it is something that is completely unavoidable and does not spare the richest/healthiest of the lott. It is also understandable if some of us are not in a state to comprehend or ready to accept this yet but the problem begins when we refuse to try and accept it.
The intense fear and worry about death is what most likely causes DEATH ANXIETY in us, which is not considered as a distinct disorder but a lot of us deal with it on a daily basis..
The fear and worry can be an outcome of a personal loss, trauma, near death experience, circumstances and situations or even ageing.
Although it is completely normal and sane to have the fear or anxiety around death, it should not be ignored or rather bottled up for long enough until it affects physical and mental state.
Subjects dealing with death anxiety might also be experiencing the fear of separation , fear of missing out on important stages in life of loved ones which is often seen among the older folks or just the fear of losing loved ones.
Having dealt with death anxiety myself, I can surely say that it has been quite a ride to not fall in the pit of fear and overthinking. The constant pressure to not talk/think about death because it is considered a negative subject to dwell upon has conditioned the brain in a manner where even a healthy conversation can turn into an anxious situation which then leads to a meltdown or even a panic attack.
As a society, it is important for us to condition our brain right from the beginning to know about the inevitable circumstances and make it a part of our daily table talk with our family and friends and only then one would not only be able to cope but will be hopeful to heal with the same in the future.
As the world is facing a pandemic, it is obvious for people to have anxiety and especially death anxiety which may not be considered serious by the society but it is very important to address and acknowledge that not all are ready to accept or face loss or not have fear around it . This might be way too philosophical and simple for me to put into words but on the hind side it might be shattering for the ones who have lost their loved ones and scarred them for life.
How can one help :
Give some space: everyone deals with grief and anxiety on their own terms , intervening in their matters might blow up and make things worse .And yes, professional help should be considered if things hit the roof .
Check on them: it is important to know how everyone is feeling ,engaging in conversations that are relatable might help in putting a stop to overthinking.
Do not be idle : as we all know, an idle mind is a devil’s workshop. Keep yourself/ them busy by indulging in creative activities or brain exercise . make sure you also take breaks in between and not burn out.
Exercise / meditate : the best way to cope with anxiety according to me is to simply meditate or exercise which will calm your nerves and keep you fit physically and mentally.
It is very important for all of us to acknowledge our mental state based on the situation we are facing and dealing with on a daily basis, this would not only keep ourselves at peace but also to brighten up the ones who are low . seeking professional help or engaging in activities other than our routine would reset our minds and give us the right presence of mind to tackle any situation.